MING PAO WEEKLY, VOL. 2285
Sally brought her computer with her. When we were talking about some certain topics, she would show us some photos or video clips to elaborate her points. For example, when she was talking about how she enjoyed doing house renovations, she would open the photos to show us the beautiful design of the TV table she especially ordered from Italy and loved much, looking so content while talking. “I feel so happy already just by looking at it… aiya… Cannot go back to see it for one whole year…” Sally said, still the carefree spirit as always. Sally loves Badminton, interior design, golf, going to the gym, eating, and Latin dance. She's truly an energetic 50 years old and she never considered her age a secret. “I actually am happy to be able to show people that it's possible to be so fit even at 50!”
Talking about Latin, Sally clicked on a video clip to show us how difficult the steps can be. And she can actually dance them even more accurately than the teachers! Go Sally Go Sally Go! Even though it seemed Sally had been out of the scene for so long, actually she'd never stopped!
The Older, the More She Loves Exercising
“I didn't have such strong feelings when I turned 30 or 40 as I did when I turned 50. I could feel the changes in my body right away. The flexibility was gone, and I had to push myself.” Sally had always been determined; she could push herself to practice Latin from 11:00AM – 8:00PM, as if she was in military training. “I am so happy I can still do this at 50, at least my body can still handle this. I love to have stamina and energy… and I don't want to feel lazy or weak.”
Sally sang SUIN GSEE GAY and danced the hot dance together with a group of young dancers who were at their 20's; it was truly phenomenal. “Even at that time I wasn't as fit as I am not. Now I'm very fit. You have to keep exercising, run on the treadmill; you have to go through the most difficult phrase. In the beginning, my whole body was aching, I couldn't even wash the dishes, but after that, things started getting better. It took me 6 weeks. In the beginning I couldn't even run for 2 minutes, and now I can run 18 minutes nonstop.
Sally says she enjoys exercises more and more when she grows older. She would listen to fast tracks while running, and would run faster and faster…” I would run until I could no longer feel how tired I am”… She fell in love with badminton and Latin dance 10 years ago, but the dance teacher at that time commented she didn't dance well, and her waist was too stiff. “My waist hurts when I play ball, but then when dance Latin, they ask me to do waist and hip twist… I couldn't do it at the time, so I decided to choose 1 out of the 2 and played badminton first.”
Love to Play Smart Ball
She opened her computer and showed us a video clip of 8 minutes, in which she danced Latin with ease to the Medley composed from the songs “Cha Cha Cha”, “La Isla Bonita” , “Woh Yeew” , without any sign of shallow breath or sweaty face.
Sally's strength and power were gained from rigorous exercises. She talks loudly, loves to talk, and loves to be with people. People praise her to be talented in sports, but Sally humbly said “I wasn't naturally good at sports, all the sports I loved were group sports and had human interactions involved in them. Golf is ultimately a mental game, you need to pay attention to the direction the ball is going, and be strategic with your swings; Badminton is a mental game too… I never enjoyed any solo sports… sports that take only one person to play.”
Being impressed by such passion of hers for badminton, we thought she must be an elite expert player by now, but Sally said, “Not really… I'm still a D Grade player… even after all these years of playing… too bad. But at least I have fun and I get to train my brain. I love to play smart ball… not stupid ball.” I also love to play badminton with men, tomorrow I will play with Hong Kong team's coach… When playing with these strong players, I don't even worry about winning, I am so happy already when I can win 1 or 2 points from them.
As Long as Not Stopping Me from Doing What I Love to Do
Sally and Lam have been married for 16 years; it's been more than 30 years since when they met each other till they got married. Even though they may have completely different hobbies and interests, there's no doubt they'd become the irreplaceable life partner for each other.
“I always play golf with Lam, but I can seldom win him. He doesn't play badminton, because that would affect his postures when he plays golf. He sometimes came to see me play badminton. I joined the CCC club for its great courts, couldn't find courts like this elsewhere. The other day my husband came to see me and asked me ‘Do you know there's a library in here? ‘I wasn't aware of that at all. I joined the club for 4 to 5 years just to play ball.”
Lam tried to learn to play badminton for Sally; Sally tried to learn to play tennis for Lam too, but in the end they realized they just loved different sports, and it's not easy to play together just for the sake to have something to call a common interest between them. “Well I don't really need to have the same hobbies as my husband. The most important is he wouldn't stop me from doing what I love to do, and I wouldn't stop him from doing what he loves to do either. We enjoy playing golf together. As long as he doesn't tell me what to do or not to do, it would be ok for me. He loves to travel. I don't particularly like it but I would go with him sometimes and would enjoy it too. As for eating, to be honest, he just eats too little. But we would be so happy when we find something that we both enjoy. We both love the Italian restaurant Da Domenico, sometimes we would go to Tai Ping Koon, Jimmy's Kitchen too.”
We both Love Interior Design
The couple is the most compatible when it comes to making interior design decisions. “When we decided to renovate the house, our rule was we would only buy furniture that we both liked. If one of us didn't like a certain piece of furniture, we wouldn't buy it. Sometimes when he liked something that I didn't like, it would take him a long time to persuade me. If I liked something that he didn't like, I would do the same. Once, he bought a table. I said, “I don't like this table.”Then he tried so many ways to put it in the just right place to make it look good… finally he find a way to fit it into our house beautifully that I loved. We really enjoyed shopping for furniture together.”
In the past a few years, they renovated 4 houses in Hong Kong and US, which was a great accomplishment that Sally was very happy about. “I looked for furniture everywhere… and would only buy those pieces that I was sure I would still love in 10 years. It took me 6 years to find the sofa I love. Lam showed me a photo of it, and I called the company in Italy to order it. It took them 16 weeks to have it delivered to us.”
Once, she found a TV table that she loved, but because at the time the house was still under construction, she waited for 1 year before went to buy it, only found out the manufacturer had stopped making it. After looking for it all over the States, she still couldn't find it. “The size needed to be 66 inches, the color of the wood couldn't be too dark or light… I didn't find anything that's just right, so I waited for 3 years and we didn't put a TV in that room. Later when we went to the original store again, to our surprise they started selling that TV table again, so we bought it right away. Every day I would be happy just sitting in the living room admiring the TV table, thinking “I'm so happy to see you!”
Sally showed us the photos of the TV table on her computer. It took her 6 years to find the wood floor she loved too. Before that she lived in a hotel.
It would be Exhaustive to be My Kid
Without the pet in the house, Sally doesn't feel it's too quiet, and she never thought it would have been better if she had kids. “I never wanted to have kids. I'm a big worrier, so if I became a mom, before the child was even born I would start worrying about his future and thinking about how to raise and teach him in 20 years. When he was still in my tummy he would need to start learning French, Spanish, listening to the right kind of music… I would worry about preparing him well for his future, even paving the path for him, and after he's born, I would worry about what's good for him to eat… so it would be totally exhaustive to be my kid.”
Lam has a Son Alex, and a daughter April, so Sally didn't need to have her own kids and she could be a relaxing stepmother already. Alex recently joined music industry too, and Sally told him he could look for her whenever he needed help.
“Alex always talks with me. Yesterday he came back around 8:00PM and said ‘so tired’. I said, ‘Tired? You should work even harder. You haven't even really started; you don't even know how busy and tiring it could really get yet. So don't let me hear this… you have to work hard now, so in the future you can have a good life.”
Even as a stepmother, she can be strict. “If I have a heart that's soft enough, then I could be a mummy myself. I'm too strong and tough, so being my kid would be like being in the military.”
Have Never Stopped
“I also learned a lot by myself. I read 20+ psychology books. I never loved reading, and barely graduated from high school. Once a fortune teller told me I should read more… I was 20 at the time and didn't like reading at all. But when I was 43, suddenly I read so many books; I could even get a Ph. D from it. It would be great if I go to study psychology. It's good to understand more about human behaviors, emotions, and their thinking; this helped me to be calmer myself too.
Even when Sally wasn't recording for new albums or having concerts, she still had a full, colorful and fun life. Singing was only a part of her life. It's only when Paco Wong, Duncan Wong and other old friends from East Asia Music looked for her vehemently did she decide to come out from her comfortable adobe and be back on stage again.
Original Chinese Text:
說到跳拉丁舞，她又立即播出一段錄影，讓記者看舞步有多複雜，自己跳得比排舞老師還要精準。Go Sally go Sally go！好像停了很久的葉蒨文，其實一直沒停過。
「那時還未fit，現在I'm very fit。你要不斷練，在跑步機上操，運動要經過最辛苦的階段，最初我全身痛，碗也洗不到，過了那關就很輕鬆，我花了六星期，年初我兩分鐘也跑不到，現在可以跑十八分鐘。」
她開電腦播一段八分鐘的片段，將《Cha Cha Cha》、《海旁獨唱》、《我要》變成拉丁節奏連續跳，臉不紅，氣不喘。
以為她全心投入羽毛球，已成了精英球員。「當然不是，我打來打去都是D Grade，好渣，最起碼我have fun，和練到腦袋，我鍾意打聰明波，不打stupid波，我又鍾意打男人波，明天和香港隊教練打，和叻人打，我不用贏波，從高手身上拿到一兩分已經好開心。」
「我不需要和老公有共同興趣，最緊要不要阻住我去就得，我又不會阻住他去。我們打golf最夾，只要他不指住我做什麼做什麼就ＯＫ。他鍾意旅行，我不鍾意，但我會去，通常都開心。吃東西呢？講真他吃得很少，但吃到兩個都喜歡吃的好開心，有一間意大利餐廳Da Domenico我們兩個都鍾意，有時食太平館、Jimmy's Kitchen。」
他們最合得來的是裝修家居的意見。「我們決定裝修屋，要兩個都喜歡的傢俬才可以買，不是兩個都喜歡的不可以買，有時他鍾意的要說服我，我鍾意的要說服他。有一次，他買了一張桌子回來，我說:『I don't like this table.』他拚命擺擺擺，擺到我舒服為止，我們好enjoy睇傢俬。」
有一次，她看中一個電視架，但因屋未裝修好，一年後才去買，卻已停產買不到，找遍美國都找不到。「尺寸要六十六吋，木的顏色不能太深不能太淺，沒一個合心水，過了三年，屋內沒電視機，之後再去那間店，原來再有貨，立刻買回家，我天天坐在客廳對?它:『I'm so happy to see you.』」
「過去八年好享受生活，打波、裝修，我好鍾意睇電視，《Project Runway》真人騷、《Top Chef》煮飯比賽，還有《CSI》很好看，邁亞美、紐約、洛杉磯幾輯都有睇，很忙呀，我好多朋友，一個星期七日約食飯都得。
Compiled at Sally Yeh: The Effervescent Queen of Pop http://www.sallyeh.net